stop triggering each other

start loving each other

conflict

Every relationship WILL have conflict. We’ll trigger each other in our daily interactions, we’ll focus more on being RIGHT rather than trying to resolve the conflict, we’ll feel misunderstood and like our partner doesn’t really care. When this happens, we can spiral into what Shirzad Chamine calls a “Saboteur-to-Saboteur” dance. With this training, you can learn how to finally RESOLVE conflicts so BOTH people feel heard, understood, and deeply cared for.

Gratitude

Dr. John Gottman is the godfather of healthy marriage/coupledom research. He analyzed the ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions in healthy, loving relationships. There were 500% more positive interactions between the partners than negative. A ratio of 5 to 1. Any less than that and the couples were divorced within 5 years. What is your ratio? In this training, I help you to cultivate an environment of gratitude and appreciation with your partner.

Attraction

This goes beyond simple physical attraction (although this level of deep appreciation of each other certainly supports physical closeness!). What originally attracted you to each other? What were your unique strengths that made you so compatible? And, then, how did these get covered up and distorted by your defense mechanisms during the course of your relationship? Remembering and maintaining this appreciation and attraction to the other’s unique strengths is what Shirzad Chamine calls the “Sage-to-Sage” dance and this training will help you stay in THAT dance.

cultivating coupledom with lion heart coaching

  • What are your unique gifts that drew you together? What do you see as the purpose of your relationship? With the help of the Positive Intelligence © Saboteur Assessment, our first session is a powerful visioning process that shows how your relationship can be something powerful and purpose-driven. And the purpose is your highest evolution.

  • In the 2nd week, we’ll focus on the daily practices and commitments that create a flourishing and loving relationship.

  • In the 3rd week, you’ll learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy way. So healthy that you will see that your petty grievances with each other will bring you closer together.

  • In the 4th week, we’ll review all the muscles you’ve developed so far, further integrating them.

  • A month after finishing the first 4 weeks, we’ll have a follow-up session so we can adjust anything as needed, - and continue to celebrate the incredible joy that you’ve unleashed in your relationship!